Miley Cyrus was right when she said “I can buy myself flowers…”, who’s in a better position to love you than you? It’s true that we need love and we need to feel love but loving yourself first should be on the top list. Spoil yourself a little. Treat yourself as you want others to treat you. Love yourself as you want others to love you. Do not wait for a man to show you how to love you. Do not wait for anybody to show you what loving you is. You should love yourself first.
Here’s how you can do your girl solo night
Choose an evening, whether during the week or during the weekend, whatever is most convenient. Go to the grocery store and buy some roses or any other prefered flowers . If you don’t already have it, buy some bath bomb and scented candles. Buy a little journal and a pen, so you can write what you’re greatful for and all of your dreams. Disconnect yourself from social media for the night.
When you are all settled and ready to shower, light the candles and turn on the music. Jazz, R&B, Country, Afro, whatever your ear feels like listening. If you like dancing, opt for it and turn on music that makes you move your body to the beats. If you want music that makes you relax, opt for it. Whatever vibe you choose and whatever you love.
Use your fave facial cleansing product. Rhode beauty, Fenty beauty, Rare beauty, Cerave, Good molecules, whatever is your go-to routine. Take your time to gently massage, rinse with lukewarm water, use a soft towel to pat the water off. Moisturize your face as desired or use a face mask before misturizing.
Get in to the shower or the bath tub and have a good wash. If you are using the bath tub, add your fave bath bomb and some flowers to make it look romantic. Remember it’s your self-love night. If you are using your shower, don’t forget to give your body some extra scrub. Moisturize your body and give it some good smell with a spritz of your fave fragance.
Do not cook. Remember you’re a queen tonight. Order from one of your fave restaurants and offer yourself that good delicious meal. Accompany your meal with some champagne, wine, juice, whatever will best quench your thirst. You can add some candles and flowers on the table too. It’s your self dinner date.
After your belly is satisfied, grab the book and pen. Before you write anything on the book, reflect on who you are and who you want to be. Manifest your future, speak it to yourself, write down everything that comes to your mind, how far you’ve come and how far you want to go. Write down the things you are grateful for and thankful for. Think positively and picture yourself living your dream life.
When you’re done reflecting and manifesting your dreams, the next move depends on you. You can watch a movie if you want to, or continue to listen to music or read a book, or even listen to a podcast, however you wish or feel like doing. You can choose to go to bed and continue your sweet dreams.
Note that self love is very important. After such a night, you will see yourself transformed, not because you did some magic but because your mind is now renewed and all you see and think of is the woman you want to become and the woman nobody loves more than she loves herself. The woman who buys herself flowers. The queen herself.
Do this at least quarterly for consistent growth and self-love. Remember to always keep your eyes on the prize!
